It's not about what happens to or around you but how well do you react when these things happen.
2. Let go of limiting beliefs.
There were times in my life when I was convinced that I was not good enough. When I looked at others more highly than myself, I believed that they were inherently better than me. As a result, I often behaved in ways that I didn't believe in just to feel more accepted by others.
If you have an internalized belief that you are not good enough, it can have a profound effect on your mindset and your behavior. It also becomes difficult for you to stop looking at "weaknesses" in others and exaggerating your own abilities.
Holding onto a belief that you are not good enough can really hold you back. One way to overcome a limiting belief is by identifying it. This allows you to either drop or improve the negative opinion of yourself and correct any behaviors that follow from this misconception.
3. Write some positive things about yourself.
It's easy to feel discouraged and let self-doubt take over when you think you're not good enough. But there are some things in your life you can't deny as being positive and good, even if they're small or seem insignificant right now.
It might be time to think about what those positives could mean for who you want to become and the impact it has on others around you too!
Remembering our strengths is a great way to help you recover from negative thoughts - both internally & externally projected onto us by other people. You have talents waiting inside all of you just itching for an opportunity to break out into something amazing. All you need is a journal, a pen, and some time.
Here are examples of positive writing about yourself:
- I am a kind person.
- I am intelligent.
- I have a lot of friends.
- I am fun to be around.
- I am a really hard worker.
- I am creative.
- I am good at helping others.
- I have am an excellent communicator.
- I don't need to be number one.
- I am worthy.
- I deserve to be here.
4. Remember that you are unique.
Sometimes I feel pressured to be something that I'm not, butsometimes I just need to find creative solitude in my room with the door closed for a few hours - and there's nothing wrong with that!
When you think that you are not good enough, remember the things that you excel at and make you unique. You may be the most accomplished in one area, or a handful of areas, that someone else may not be.
Conversely, that person may be great at something that you're not. The difference is, these accomplishments and quirks are what make you, you.
It's hard when you feel like you're not good enough, but remember that no one can be accomplished or perfect at everything. Embrace the things about yourself that make you unique and special.
5. You have something to contribute to the world.
You have something to contribute to the world because you are unique, talented, thoughtful, patient, and interested in learning more about who you are and what you can do.
Somewhere in your mind, there is a message that has not been heard yet and it's time to share what you have inside with the people around you.
There's no such thing as "too late" or "not enough." Being good at something means learning from your past and not giving up when things get hard.
6. Find your purpose in life.
Discovering your purpose in life can give you clarity and direction on where you want your life to go. A person without a clear sense of purpose will often feel lost and insecure while trying to make decisions about the future or even what they want for lunch.
An individual with well-defined purposes, on the other hand, is able to decide confidently between two options by asking themselves which option best aligns with their values.
Your purpose in life is the thing that makes you want to wake up every morning. It gives you a reason to feel good about yourself, take on challenges in your day-to-day life. and makes you excited to be here.
7. Face your fears.
Sometimes,the only thing you can do is to face your fear when you don't feel good enough. When fear is stuffed down inside, it grows bigger and bigger until you address it.
Fear is a negative state of mind that holds you back and tells you to not do things, or thatsomething bad will happen, or you're going to get hurt, or feel embarrassed, etc.
If you are living your life with these thoughts, you miss out on opportunies that could life changing. The best way to start is by naming the specific thing that makes me feel fearful or nervous about a particular situation so you can be prepared for it.
For example: if my fear of riding in an elevator often gets too intense, then before going into any confined space such as one with no windows at all, I might imagine myself being inside while thinking
"This isn't actually happening!" This helps confront these feelings head-on rather than suppressing them until they become more powerful because you're running away instead of facing your fear.
8. Accept where you are right now.
There is a voice inside your head that says you are not good enough and will never be good enough. That's why you procrastinate, avoid important decisions, and settle for less than what you really want in life.
A great way to overcome this is accepting where you are right now because that means taking responsibility for, and being content with, your decisions.
9. Remember how far you've come.
Reflect on what has gotten you to where you are today because, without it, everything in your life up to this point would not have been possible. You may feel that your hard work is going unnoticed or maybe even unappreciated by others sometimes.
However, remembering how far you've come can help you stay motivated when you don't feel good enough. Don't forget who helped you and how you helped others because it shaped the person that you are today.
When things get tough, take a moment to look back at the progress that you have made so far. Remember any valuable lessons you learned and experiences that were meaningful and made you feel like you were good enough.
10. Eliminate toxic relationships.
You may feel like your life is endlessly consumed by the toxicity of another person, but it's not worth sacrificing your mental and physical health over. There are plenty of ways to end toxic relationships without disrupting your own personal well-being.
When you are close to ending a relationship, the thought of ending it seem terrifying. Even if the other person is not worth the damage it can do to your self-esteem, the thought of ending the relationship does not help to ease the crushing despair that you feel inside.
Breaking up with someone is not only difficult but heartbreaking. It is also an enormous waste of time and energy which could be better spent improving yourself instead of wasting away on people who don't deserve you.
It's not always easy to just walk away but sometimes you have no choice because staying will do more harm than good eventually; so take this opportunity as a way to say yes to, and feel better about, yourself.
11. Embrace imperfection.
The world is not always a perfect place - in fact, we all know that the ideal place never really exists. But embracing your own imperfection can be an important part of feeling good about yourself.
The more you try to be perfect, the harder it is to be real. When you engage with the world through small, manageable steps instead of striving to be flawless, you discover what's truly important.
Being imperfect is a gift, not a curse. Learn how to accept mistakes and weaknesses because they are part of who are. When you embrace this spirit—rather than striving to be perfect—you discover that you're more likely to feel good enough.
12. Positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are about believing in yourself and what you can accomplish in your life. They're also great for when you need that little extra encouragement.
To start, it's important to speaking positive words in the first person like, "I'm the best" or "I love myself."
Positive affirmations may not feel true at first, but if you keep practicing them, you'll eventually start to believe in them. This is important because they can help protect you when you think, "Why am I not good enough?"
13. Learn how to love yourself.
Love is a powerful force that cannot be explained, but you most likely experienced it in your own life.
How do you love yourself? The answer is in the process. You don’t learn how to love yourself by being told, and you certainly don’t learn it by being told repeatedly that you are wonderful just the way you are.
You learn by doing. And doing what? By loving the process, not the result. The result might be learning to be grateful for what you have instead of focusing on what you lack. Or it might be learning to say no when someone offers you something you don’t.
The ability to love yourself is a huge step toward feeling good about yourself. Here are a few things you can do to love yourself more:
- Find moments when something makes you feel good about yourself and take note of those things when they happen.
- Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion by telling yourself how much you're worthy and deserving.
- Celebrate achievements (small ones too!) and share your accomplishments with family and friends.
The next time you feel like you're not good enough, remember these tips on how to love yourself.
14. Get some help/therapy.
Sometimes you need to get help from someone else when you're not feeling good enough because it's just too difficult and that's okay. You deserve to have a safe place for your mind even if it means handing over the reins so you can have peace.
Getting help with your mental health is one of the most important decisions you can make. Be sure you get support from someone you trust, like a confidante, spiritual leader, or licensed professional.
Therapy often helps people who have difficulty talking through or making sense of difficult emotions like stress, depression or anxiety. Regardless of who you seek help from, asking for help is one way to gain a better understanding of why you don't feel good enough and may even improve the way you feel about yourself.
